LEASE DECREASE

LeaseMy 90 year old mother in law has lived in an assisted living senior facility for the past 2 years. Due to the recessed economy, management recently announced a promotional room price of $1525 per month to stir up new business.

My mother in law was paying $2440 per month, and that price was slated to increase even more in December. Believing it’s unfair to treat new tenants better than long-time loyal occupants, she asked my wife to contact the business office to request the promotional price.

The business manager promptly returned her call and, reading from a rehearsed script, dryly explained that the special price was for new residents only. Then, hard bargainer that he was, he followed up the phone call with a notification of lease termination. It was clear to me that I wasn’t going to get anywhere with this guy so I decided to go right to the top.

Two days later I contacted the owner directly (the real decision maker) and calmly explained our dilemma. I explained that my mother in law was very comfortable in the facility but felt that her status as a loyal renter was being devalued by being excluded from the lower price. I explained that I understood his position but I wasn’t asking for everyone – just my mother in law, who had been living there for many years.

I also reminded him that my mother in law would probably need more intensive care in the future, one of his core profit centers. I explained that if she was happy there, she would feel much better about moving a few doors down the hall than relocating to an entirely new facility when her health issues inevitably intensified.

Seeing that I was considering the pictures in his head and not just my own interests, he happily agreed to lower her rent significantly to $1,982 and to prorate it for the current month which was already well underway. He also agreed to forego the annual rent increase until December 2012.

These negotiation tools work great. Not only was this negotiation successful but the new rent is even less than she was paying when she first moved in 2 years ago! — Andy Ungar, COO Max Grease Monkey (Beijing) Automotive Technology Ltd., Beijing China.


SD Comment:
This is excellent. Even though the owner didn’t match the introductory price, what the book and course are about are getting more, not getting everything. And I expect that the “introductory price” won’t stay there for long, while your mother-in-law’s price will increase only slowly. You have a friend in the owner. And you didn’t spend a moment on the skin-flint hard bargainer – you went to the person who could meet your goals. Savings of $5,496 for the first year alone.

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At Bat in Giant’s Stadium

Stuart Diamond with Rich Murray

Me and Rich Murray

Yesterday I had batting practice at Giants Stadium in San Francisco with Rich Murray, who played first base for the Giants from 1980-83. His stats included four home runs and 125 hits. I traded him a signed baseball for a signed copy of Getting More.

Murray was on hand for an evening at the ballpark for a group of Young Presidents Organization members from San Francisco.

The event was put together by Brad Oberwager, a Wharton graduate of 1995 and one of my favorite negotiation students. Brad is now Chairman of Sundia, which sells cut fruit in plastic containers. An anecdote is in the book on how he trades items of unequal value.

I gave a talk to the group about Getting More after missing five pitches from Rich, after which he gave me some batting tips and posed with me for a picture.

Later, when I went back to my hotel, I got into a conversation about the event with the doorman who took my car and noticed my Giants cap in the front seat. He remembered Murray and said, “Oh yeah, he played first base. Good guy.” The doorman was impressed with the signed baseball.

I’ll bet my 10-year-old son, Alexander, will be too.

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IN PURSUIT OF A GOOD SUIT

Adnan Baranbo

Adnan Baranbo

Recently I bought a suit from one of the best fashion stores in my town in Syria. In US currency, the suit cost $300.

A few days later I took the suit out of my closet, excited to sport my dapper new investment. It was then that I discovered defects in the suit that I hadn’t noticed when I was in the upscale boutique: there was clear dirt around the buttons. I was irritated that I hadn’t seen this in the store and that they hadn’t been pointed out to me by the sales representative.

Sadly, the consumer protection laws in Syria are not strictly enforced, so it wouldn’t be possible for me to return the product within a certain period of time for any reason, whether I don’t like the product or the product is defective.

I thought a lot before returning to the store. I focused on remaining calm, concentrating on my goals, and not losing my temper (which would be the natural reaction of most people.)

It was clear this was the perfect opportunity to use some of the hidden strategies in Getting More, a book I have read many times. After some consideration and preparation, I decided that Looking for the Decision Maker, Making a Human Connection, Standards and Framing were the best tools to use in this situation.

When I went back to the shop I packaged the suit in a black bag so they wouldn’t immediately write me off as someone who was there to complain and therefore treat me differently. I quickly located the salesperson who had initially sold me the suit. He remembered me immediately and we had a friendly chat about his day, the clothes in the store, and his sales career.

After speaking jovially to the salesman for a while, and in the presence of the shop manager, I took the suit from the bag, showed them the dirt around the buttons and asked a framing question: “Being one of the very best shops in town, do you accept that I wear a defective suit purchased from you?”

That’s all it took. They immediately replied: Definitely not! We’ll get you another suit that fits properly and is in perfect condition. Leave us your mobile number and we’ll call you once it’s ready.

I got the suit, a suit I love, because I used the skills I learned in this book to get more.- Adnan Baranbo PhD, Business Development Manager, HADID International Services, Dubai.

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BOOKSTORE SCORE

Katrina Agustin

Katrina Agustin

I noticed the book Getting More on our marketing coach’s desk. I knew he was going out of town for two days so I convinced him to let me borrow it. After devouring just a few pages, it was clear that I would need my own copy.

However, I’m from the Philippines so the book is not as readily available in our local bookstores as it is elsewhere.

I did some research and found a bookstore that potentially had a copy in stock, but only in select branches of their store. I spoke on the phone with a clerk from the store who told me which branches might have it. I felt like groaning because all the locations were really far away from where I live.

The clerk also emphasized that even if I drove to all these branches it was still only a possibility they would have the book; the chances of my getting a copy immediately were minimal.

Because I had already read the part of Getting More that urges the reader to keep asking questions and probing for options, I asked the clerk if they could locate the book for me and have it transferred to a nearby branch where I could pick it up easily. I explained that I would be happy to pay for the transfer. Happily he said they can offer that service and that it was free!

I signed a transfer request sheet and three days later I got a text message informing me that my copy of Getting More was waiting for me at my local store branch.

If this had happened prior to reading the book I would’ve certainly gone to each of the “possible” branches to find the book myself. With the advantage of these negotiation tools I was able to save a lot of time, effort, and money just by asking questions!

Definitely, the book is a MUST for everybody.-Katrina Agustin, Health & Care Rep – Corporate Accounts, Fern Inc., Philippines.


SD COMMENT: Congratulations Katrina! Your first successful negotiation using the book was for the book! I wish you all the best in getting more from now on.

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PATIENT PATIENT

Harry Hirschman

Harry Hirschman

During a recent appointment, my doctor referred me to a specialist with urgent instructions that I needed to be seen right away.

The clinic he referred me to, as I expected, is run in accordance with what we’re taught in Operations and Information Management (OPIM). New patients are only seen in specific time slots because they take longer than returning patients and are therefore disruptive to the smooth flow of the clinic.

When I called the clinic, they predictably told me that the first available appointment for me as a new patient was weeks away. My goal was to be seen right away as per my doctor’s orders. I accepted the time and date they offered me over the phone but had no intentions of giving up.

I went over to the clinic. My goal was to put a face to the voice they had heard on the phone, to make a human connection, and to be immediately available if a slot opened up. Also important was showing them that I would be polite and easy to work with. My health was on the line.

On my first in-person visit to the clinic I met the new patient coordinator and a few others, but there were no doctors in clinic at the time so I left.

Two days later, I came back and checked in with the people I’d met and prepared to wait several hours for something to open up. I was surprised when a short while later the clinic manager emerged and introduced himself to me in the waiting room. He brought me back to a private room to chat.

Trying to identify the pictures in his head, I quickly saw that his goal was to manage my expectations of being seen. He very nicely explained how the clinic scheduled new patients and he added that my chances of being seen as a drop-in were “slim”. He assured me he would call me the night before if anything opened up, and reiterated that this was the best they could do given that clinic efficiency was their top priority.

Although it was of the utmost importance that I persuade him, I remained calm. It was very clear to me that “efficiency” was a key word for him. I empathized with him on the merits of efficiency and demonstrated that I understood why they did it that way, explaining I had taken courses on OPIM in business school.

I’ve been actively managing my own health care for many years and have learned to be politely persistent. So I subtly altered the standard under discussion by asking a pointed question: How do they prioritize patients according to urgency?

When the discussion shifted from efficiency to priority or “triage”, a glaring miscommunication revealed itself.

He did not want to seem extreme or insensitive to urgency, so he explained that while routine referrals went through the normal scheduling process, they did of course schedule urgent referrals ahead of others. He wasn’t aware that my referral was urgent and had thought mistakenly that I was just trying to skirt policy.

I explained that the referring doctor did consider mine to be an urgent referral, but that there was no way for her to indicate that in her clinic’s IT system. She had been forced to manually indicate the urgency in her notes. Once he was able to verify that my statement was true, he put the machinery in motion and I was seen later that same day by a specialist!

I often have difficulty recognizing standards and figuring out which to apply. Luckily, it came naturally this time from my previous experience working with the system.

Other key factors to a successful outcome were: Patience (trading my time by being willing to wait in their lobby), Making a personal connection, Thinking about the pictures in their head, Politeness, Remaining Calm, and Professional Appearance (business casual clothes). Another successful negotiation!- Harry Hirschman, Wharton MBA ’01, Co-Founder, Conderos Inc., San Francisco, CA.


SD Comment: Outstanding negotiation! More than 99% of patients would either give up or get nowhere by getting agitated. They would complain about “the system,” never knowing that a solution existed. By dispassionately focusing on course tools, asking questions and using standards and framing, Harry was able to quickly and easily meet his goals. For almost everyone else (except for the followers of Getting More), what Harry did was invisible.

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Getting More on Fox 5, Washington D.C.

Stuart Diamond drops by the Fox News 5 studio in Washington D.C. to weigh in on the troubling Debt Ceiling negotiations.


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CANCELLATION ELATION

Alexa Driansky

Alexa Driansky

This May I used Priceline to book my hotel room for a trip to Miami with friends. I instantly regretted my winning bid because the hotel that accepted my offer was several miles from the hotel where my friends were staying. Although Priceline’s terms clearly stated this booking was “non-cancellable”, my goal was to get out of it and to be refunded in full.

After taking Professor Diamond’s negotiating class, I knew I needed to do my homework before calling Priceline. Preparation can pay big dividends.

I did some online research, both about Priceline’s standards and the hotel’s standards. I discovered that the hotel’s policy allowed for cancellations 24 hours prior to check in. Luckily, I still had 4 days remaining before the trip.

Armed with the information that I was well within the hotel’s cancellation period, I called Priceline customer service. The first couple of people I spoke with were very unhelpful. They had a bit of an attitude and recited clear lines from a playbook, that the room was not cancellable.

It was difficult to figure out who the real decision maker was because each time I called Priceline customer service they said only the hotel could cancel the reservation; when I called the hotel reservations line they said that Priceline had to cancel the stay.

It seemed both parties hoped I would become so frustrated with the constant back-and-forth that I would just drop it. But I was determined and persistent.

On my fifth call to Priceline I finally got someone nice and amenable to talking to me. We had a pleasant chat about Miami and vacations. After making a personal connection, I found out that there are exceptions to the rules and customers have been able to cancel their bookings in the past.

The friendly Priceline rep gladly informed me I would be able to cancel my hotel stay if I followed these steps: 1) call the hotel and have the manager make a note on my file that s/he approved my cancellation, 2) call Priceline back to tell them to whom I spoke, 3) Priceline would then call the hotel to verify cancellation, 4) then I would be able to cancel my reservation and receive my refund.

Professor Diamond’s tools to use standards, find the decision maker, and ask for exceptions helped me get out of my “non-cancellable” Priceline hotel booking. This saved me $650. Take that, Priceline Negotiator! – Alexa Driansky, Wharton MBA ‘11, Merchandising Operations, The Jones Group Inc.


SD COMMENT: This excellent negotiation clearly shows the value of calmly and unemotionally being persistent and using a clear, structured approach. Most people would get emotional and start berating the other side, winding up with nothing. Finding out their process, in detail, is almost always helpful.

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SOCIAL CLIMB

Blake

Blake Anglin

I bought Getting More on a Sunday and read the first few pages that night. On Monday I found myself reflecting on the many times I had unwittingly used the tools just by being nice to somebody or valuing them.

If I had been capable of implementing these invisible strategies without even realizing it before, just think what I could accomplish now that I had the book as an aide.

I’m only about 10% into the book now and I can feel that negotiating is already starting to come naturally to me. Take this great example:

On Tuesday, I went to the gym to rock climb. I was standing at the desk waiting for my friend when I heard a fellow climber asking the clerk if he could sell his remaining climbs back because he was leaving town for a new job. It didn’t seem like the clerk was being very helpful.

I dialed in on what I have read thus far in Getting More and honed in on my goal: I wanted the guy’s climbs especially since I only had 17 left and he couldn’t use them anyway.

I immediately walked over and amiably asked him where he was going for his new job. For about ten minutes we chatted about his upcoming trip and how long he was going to be gone. By the end of our chat we were very friendly.

I now felt comfortable to ask if he might sell me all 7 of his climbs for $10 total. I genuinely wanted to help him out and I assured him we could meet up at a place of his choosing prior to his trip to make the transaction. He said sure!

But it gets better.

It turns out he was waiting for some friends who were unable to get into the gym without another member admitting them as guests. I gladly volunteered my pass and we got all of his friends into the gym without a problem. As we were walking back from climbing he shook my hand and said, “Hey, about the $10, don’t worry about it.”

By making a personal connection and trading items of unequal value, I was able to get 7 climbs for free, a value of $30! It only took two days for me to get results from Getting More. It was a great feeling and I have been glued to the book ever since.- Blake Anglin, Student, The University of North Texas, Risk Management Intern, The OCC


SD Comment: This is really terrific. It shows how you can get a lot more just by making small changes.

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STRAIGHTER JACKET

Matthew Axelrod

Matthew Axelrod

Last year I bought a jacket at Brooks Brothers. At $600 it was the most expensive jacket I had ever purchased but I thought it would last me ten years and that I would wear it all the time.

Unfortunately, it never fit right. I’m a size 39/40, but all they had in the store that day was a size 41. The salesman assured me that, with some minor adjustments, it would fit perfectly. It never did.

I went back to Brooks Brothers twice to try to exchange the jacket for a new one that fit me properly. No luck.

Determined to have a well fitting garment, I went to a tailor and spent an additional $40 on alterations. Even then, the jacket still didn’t fit correctly.

So, after taking your negotiations class, I took the jacket back to Brooks Brothers. I found the decision maker, the Store Manager. I calmly explained my goal of having a jacket that I feel good in. I complimented him on the jacket that he was wearing, which fit beautifully. I told him I wanted my jacket to look like his. He agreed my jacket didn’t look quite right, promptly fitted me in a 39, and swapped out the old jacket at no charge.

I told him that after a year of feeling bad about Brooks Brothers, I now feel good about the store. To show my gratitude, I’m writing a letter to Brooks Brothers to tell them how appreciative I am of the store manager’s great service.

Thanks for teaching me these negotiation tools.- Matthew Axelrod, Wharton MBA, 2011


SD Comment: This is great. You decided to negotiate, found the decision maker and didn’t make yourself the issue. As you can see, you were able to meet your goals even a year later.

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KEEPING COOL

RefrigeratorMy supposedly top-of-the-line refrigerator died one weekend. My husband called the manufacturer to see if they would cover the costs of the repair since the machine was so new (just over a year old).

They told us their newer items were under a one-year rather than a five-year warranty. Despite the expired warranty, they offered to cover the cost of the new parts. For the labor, however, they said we were on our own. The labor alone was going to cost $800.

A few days later, the repair technician came to our house to assess the problem. He was shocked the manufacture wouldn’t pay for everything. He was certain the terms of the warranty had recently changed in our favor and suggested that we “scream and holler.” Like many people, he figured yelling was the best way to get the manufacturer to help us.

When I called a representative the next day to ask about the warranty, she confirmed what we had originally been told: that the warranty had indeed expired, that it was their policy to offer to cover parts but not labor, and that they were already being more generous than necessary.

“Ma’am,” I said, “the technician who came out here told me to scream and holler at you, but I’d rather treat you with respect and consideration. Have you or your supervisor ever extended coverage of the warranty to include payment for labor past the one-year mark? Surely you’d agree that your refrigerators should last longer than a year.”

After chatting for another twenty minutes, thus building a relationship, she happily gave me an authorization number to cover the full amount of the repair – parts AND labor. She was lovely about it, and she thanked me for not screaming and hollering. Using standards and valuing the other party reaped wonderful results, a total savings of about $1600. -Lydia M., Wharton MBA, 2006.


SD COMMENT: Perfect. You used the Getting More model of not making yourself the issue and making the human connection, and that made most of the difference. Excellent use of standards also helped. Great job.

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